I have been seeing someone I really, really like for over two years now. It has been casual, and it hasn't been a super consistent situation-ship until last January. We have seen each other every month or two at least once for a year, which is pretty good considering we lived in different states and again, we are casual. I don't mind being open and non-exclusive, but things have felt more serious recently.
We went to each other's holiday parties and met each other's coworkers, we started saying "I love you" usually drunk, but sometimes sober, he tells his friends and coworkers about us, we recently met each other's family members under random circumstances , and people in my life have told me that they've never seen me as happy as I am when I'm with him.
The not-so-great parts: I just moved across the country, and now we are a flight away from one another rather than a drive. He has absolutely no plans to move out of his city. While I was on my first date here, he texted to ask if we could talk on the phone, which he's never done before. Then he told me that he thinks he contracted an STI in the past couple weeks, right before I last saw him.
I'm going to get tested of course and waiting to hear back on the results from his test. How do I navigate this relationship going forward? I don't want things to end, and neither does he, but obviously it's going to be complicated with the distance. I'm also upset that he took risks with my health and didn't mention it until he noticed symptoms himself.
He's planning to visit soon, and if this continues, I need more from him than a level of casual where I'm the one orchestrating all the plans and he's not being safe with multiple partners.
