Our most intimate relationships can at times be our greatest source of happiness, and at other times bring us almost unbearable heart ache and pain. But now all we do is fight, or not talk at all. Its like we are roommates, instead of life long partners and lovers. We understand. It can be very challenging to keep a committed long-term relationship healthy, alive and vibrant.
But how do you do this? Well, there is no simple formula. But here at Waterford we believe that it is possible to get back on track in finding the love and intimacy that you are seeking in your relationships though marriage counseling.
We use a variety of treatment approaches including the Gottman method of marriage counseling. In general we take a three step strategy to help you get your marriage where you want it to be.
First, in marriage counseling we help you address the immediate issues that are creating distress in your relationship. Just like when you walk into an ER, we want to help stop the bleeding and reduce the pain. We want to immediately administer medicine that will begin the healing process. This means finding ways to stop the negative behaviors that are hurting your relationship, and begin to explore ways to relate to each other that are more conducive for healing, safety and re-connection.
Secondly, in marriage counseling we teach you and your partner relationship skills and coach you on how to use them appropriately in your relationship. Most of us have been ill-equipped with good relationship skills. After all, where do we learn these vital skills? Who teaches us? If we were lucky we had loving parents that modeled these skills for us. But for most of us, no one ever taught us how to communicate effectively, negotiate, have a fair fight, actively listen, convey empathy, honor our partner and all of the other essential skills that are necessary to build and maintain a strong healthy relationship.
