Annie Lane writes the Dear Annie advice column. Over the years, there have been moments when it felt like we were moving toward being together, but it never progressed. We spend time together, but only as friends. Whenever I try to talk about it, he changes the subject. Sometimes I think his behavior stems from a fear of commitment. Should I keep hoping that his feelings might change, or is it time to let go and move on?
Dear Chasing a Childhood Dream: Wow, this is a tough and emotionally complicated situation. From his actions, it seems like he might be perfectly content with the current arrangement -- friends with benefits. Sit him down and explain how you feel. Be prepared for the possibility that he might not feel the same way, but remember that honesty, even if painful, is better than continuing to wonder and hope for something that may never happen.
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By Annie Lane.
