Posted May 8, Reviewed by Gary Drevitch. Commitment is not in vogue, currently. Instead, relationships without commitment appear to be on the rise.
Non-committal people say to each other, "I love you," but what they really mean is, "I want to be with you today. A better opportunity may open up tomorrow, and if so, I'll take it.
Why deny yourself the chance of meeting someone new, and perhaps, more interesting? No less importantly, one can avoid blame for having multiple affairs simultaneously by simply never making any promises. In making my case, I wish to begin with the difference between falling in love and mature love. When we first fall in love with someone, the mind of the other is to a great extent intransparent to us. Has she changed her mind since Friday?
Did he enjoy our night out or is he being polite in saying that he did? Anything and everything can make us jealous and insecure. Novelist George Eliot underscores our tendency to see the object of a romantic interest as intransparent and unknowable when we are jealous, as we are apt to be in the early stages of a relationship.
Whence this intransparency? Jealousy reveals to us how obscure the mental lives of others are:. It is one of the faculties of jealousy to reveal to us the extent to which the reality of external facts and the sentiments of the heart are an unknown element which lends itself to endless supposition.
