Something about the holidays can prompt exes to reappear β especially if your plans include heading to the same hometown for the season. As messy as it might sound, sometimes this can be a good thing. Time apart can allow you to recalibrate and decide what you want β which may include giving your ex a second chance. Here, five people share how they were able to reconnect with a former partner, with only minimal weirdness.
The one thing they have in common: They were honest, they met up IRL, and they took things moment by moment. My ex and I dated seriously in high school and hooked up in college. Then I decided my senior year that I needed to stop being connected with him. I was moving across the country, and I just needed to be focused on my new life.
But I still missed him. I knew he lived about half an hour away from our hometown, and I was heading home to see my family for Thanksgiving. I made a plan about two weeks before I came home: I would unmute him on social media, and if he looked like he had a girlfriend, I would mute him again. So I began commenting occasionally on his social media.
Nothing weird, just emojis. We ended up getting back together. Now, three years later, we are still friends! I had a friend with benefits whom I had begun dating in college. We went on a few dates right before graduation, but then he moved to Europe and I was in New York City.
For awhile, we would have a hookup situation whenever he happened to be in New York for meetings or if I was in Europe. But I also wanted more than just that. So I told him all that and we ended up having a really romantic weekend going to bars, restaurants, and having an amazing hookup. For me, it was just getting really clear about what I wanted out of the situationship. I wanted a great time in bed, but I also wanted to feel connected and get to know this guy.
