I feel that sex without love, respect, emotional depth and some level of commitment, is damaging for girls โ and possibly boys. At that time, I printed only female responses. More to come on this topic.
Justin, 22, Redding: Your letter is insulting. Historically, female sexuality has been shunned. She stereotypes men as willing to run through girls with no connection, yet girls do the same thing to men. Some are pressured into things, but not every girl who has sex without love is a victim of psychological damage, and not every guy just wants to run through girls. Matt, 16, Villa Park: Principles and values are at play here.
The power of female sexuality is amazing and most women know it and use it for what they want. Yet boys get the blame. But nobody talks about the guys who got their hearts ripped out or were cheated on by four women in a row. I lost my virginity to a year-old woman when I was Was I in control? I have many sensitive guy friends. We watch girls pick the bad boys.
When I am intimate I feel obligated to stick around. Not most girls today. My buddies and I are astonished and talk a lot about how aggressive girls are. Gregg, 19, Sacramento: I dislike instant hookups. The few times they have happened, the next morning I felt embarrassed, dirty and rude. That speaks volumes. Lennon, 24, Fair Oaks: The hookup scene feels shallow and counterintuitive.
Anyone can hook up, but not everyone can build a relationship. Sure, hookups are exciting; each one is brand new.
