Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. This last year, there has been no physical intimacy between us at all. We vibe very well in our relationship being partners in a small business.
He says he is still attracted to me and keeps on blaming our busy work lives for lack of sex. But we are usually home before 10 p.
When we used to have sex, he struggled with erectile dysfunction. I even asked him if he would go to the doctor to see if he had a problem. He agreed to make an appointment, but when the day came he made excuses and did not go. Can you please help with some advice here? He might be more receptive to you if you approach it that way β out of concern for his whole-body health β and offer to go with him to the appointment, to offer moral support.
I hope he hears you out. Her level of desperation in continuing to pursue someone after being blocked is a sad example of a person with no sense of boundaries and no love of self. My life decisions were the product of my low self-esteem and an upbringing that taught me that I needed a man to feel like I have value.
I have since received much-needed counseling in self-compassion, self-worth, and healthy boundaries, as the result of having an emotionally unavailable parent. These days, I know that I deserve a relationship in which I can express my needs to my partner. If they are not met, I can let go of that person, knowing that they are not for me. I trust myself and have erected boundaries that protect me, but also let the right person in.
