As a single woman of 40, I am now trying to make an educated choice for the purpose of extending my fertility. With that in mind, I am considering many options and what their implications are. In this regard, I have a few questions. Yes, I am considering egg freezing as well but eggs do not freeze as well as embryos which is why I am looking at all my options.
So, I am wondering if it is really so terrible to get a Jewish sperm donor from a sperm bank? I do not think there is a real worry that the child will end up marrying a close relative as modern day genetic testing can quickly tell you if two people are closely genetically related or not. Is there rather a concern that the Jewish sperm donor may be of mamzer lineage?
So, what is the real concern here? Although technology for egg freezing continues to improve, it is important to be aware of the current success rates and how they vary with age. Embryo freezing is more promising, but creating a viable embryo is also less than simple at this age. There are some differences of opinion among halachic authorities on this topic.
DNA tests prior to marriage are not standard and may not be simple to impose. The possibility of mamzerut is considered so grave that we do not intentionally enter into situations that may raise doubts. We hope these answers are helpful as you face these challenging decisions. We greatly value your commitment to halacha as part of your decision-making.
You may also find it helpful to have a personal consultation with a Nishmat Fertility Counselor, a Yoetzet Halacha who has completed additional specialized training in this area. Consultations are free and can take place in person, by phone, or via internet conference. Ask a Yoetzet Golda Koschitzky Hotline. Fertility options for older singles 11 November, We appreciate the sensitive nature of this question.
