Finally, is it really possible for me to experience pleasure this way? Several of my girlfriends have done it and none of them list it as their favorite thing. I need both practical and emotional advice. He Said: I think this question calls for a good bullet point how-to-guide, from the practical to the philosophical: Make sure you use plenty of lube, perhaps twice what you would normally apply to vaginal sex.
If you are not using condoms, which will make the experience much more pleasurable, make sure you both get tested for all STDs, including HIV, and have been monogamous for several monthsβsince you are engaged, this shouldn't be a problem. Remember, STDS are much easier to transmit anally. Create a safe environment for experimentation.
Have a glass of wine to relax your body and get in the mood. Since women do not have a prostate, anal sex tends to be less pleasurable than for men. Gay men enjoy bottoming so much, in fact, that they constantly complain that there are too few tops. Nevertheless, many women, and even a few straight men, report that anal play has added a whole new dimension to their sex lives. Douche carefully in advance Immodium is very helpful , as there is no worse way to ruin the mood than, well, you know.
It is also nothing to panic over if a slight mess does occur. That's what the shower is for. And perfume. Most of the discomfort comes from stretching the sphincter too quickly. Start with a finger and when that feels okay, move on to two fingers. If you don't like itβor take a while to get into itβit would be totally unacceptable to pressure you. You must have percent control over your own body and activities. The fact that you are willing to give it a good old-fashioned try is more than enough.
She Said: I wanted to get some feedback from straight women, so I did a random, anonymous poll of 10 ladies, and the results varied widely. I asked them simply: How often have you had anal sex, and on a scale of 1 to 10, how much did you enjoy it? To start, peruse The Surrender by Toni Bentley. As for practicalities, I have a few points to add to the above: Many people do not douche, use enemas, or take anti-diarrheals beforehand.
