One of the most shocking stories my grandmother ever told me about her college years centered solely around her crazy dating life. Her, and my now grandfather, had plans to grab dinner on a Friday night.
While on the date, he started feeling sick and drove my grandmother back home so he could rest. The first time I heard this story, my jaw dropped. I was shocked. Going out with two guys in the same night seemed counterproductive and even rude, but now my opinion has shifted. In this day and age, exclusivity and dating go hand-in-hand, but that may not necessarily be the most practical way of dealing with relationships. It allowed you to meet a multitude of possible partners without any added pressure, while also determining what qualities you liked or disliked in each individual.
That way, when you felt a deeper and more emotionally intimate attachment to a specific individual compared to anyone else, you really knew that person was the one. You go out on one first date, feel sparks and then feel obligated to narrow in on the possibility of that one relationship, even without any actual commitment. Some may call that empathetic human nature or a clingy personality.
Regardless, there seems to be an underlying social rule that going out on multiple casual dates with different people is impolite to those potential partners. Yet, if dating was seen as a relaxing, laid-back process, this social pressure could become obsolete. On top of that, in the modern dating world, it can be easy to rush into commitment right away. Statistics demonstrate that unhappiness in relationships , especially marriages, have grown in the last few decades, especially in women.
Casual dating eliminates the need to jump right into commitment and instead really focus on compatibility, self-growth and learning about your own preferences to decide whether a potential relationship will be gratifying and filled with respectable love. Overall, having open communication with any potential partner leads to a foundation of honesty.
