Chicago therapist Brian Rzepczynski is known as The Gay Love Coach , and he recently interviewed me on the difficulties that gay singles and couples experience.
Click the play button below to listen to the interview or read the transcript below. Welcome, Clinton. Brian: Great. Thank you so much for joining us. I was wondering maybe if you could just tell our listeners a little bit about yourself and what you do. Clinton: Certainly, yes. My practice primarily works with singles and couples with relationship issues.
Last year I wrote my first book. Clinton: Thank you. Thank you. Brian: Perfect. I was wondering if you could just maybe tell us a little bit in your perception about why do gay men seem to have such a difficult time making their relationships last?
Clinton: Yes. This is such a big question, Brian. Clinton: Oh, my goodness. We would. I think there are probably so many different reasons for it, but primarily when I reflect on this question it really comes back to that on some level all of us as gay men are injured in some way. Brian: Absolutely. Brian: Right. I can quickly move on and get someone else. And then things start to get challenging. I wish I knew the answer to that as well. I think that one of the things that come to mind for me is perfectionism.
I see a lot of gay men that have characteristics of perfectionists, meaning that they strive to be perfect in so many areas of their lives. To have a great job, earn lots of money. Have a flawless body. Be super fit. Change their looks or try to improve their appearance. The grass is always greener. Do you see that? I agree, too. I think so. I imagine they are where you are. Clinton: That seems to sustain this idea that you need to be perfect. You need to have a six-pack so you can put a photo on Grindr or Scruff, or whatever else it is.
