Au contraire! I want my friends, most of whom date men in some capacity, to have better options. Life favors the attractive. You can whine about that all you want, but you could also spend your time making your profile better. Dating apps require someone to like one photo enough to look at more photos of you and then like those five photos enough to read your painstakingly crafted bio about how you like burritos please shut up about burritos.
You need a good first picture. Eighty-seven percent of your profile hingesβnot a punβon that first photo. It should not be a close-up of your face, nor should it be a shot of you on a mountaintop from 60 yards away.
This is also your time to shineβsolo. High-quality photos matter! That can be brunch, a friend's wedding, a baseball gameβanything that offers an opportunity for good, natural lighting. Confused or embarrassed about whom to ask? Your best bet is a female friend who insists on group photos or a male friend with a public Instagram, in a pinch.
The idea is to seem interesting to talk to β[hometown] plane emoji [city you currently live in] is not getting the job done. Do not open with anything sexualβnot a dick pic, not a pick-up line, not even a sexually adjacent compliment. Effort is hot. Make your profile low-risk. The goal is to express normalcy safety with a dollop of originality. You must have more than one photo. You know who only has one photo of themselves? Focus on positives rather than negatives. Imagine dating like feeding a deer I know this is a weird metaphor; stick with me.
But if your goal is to get more matches, you have to walk a line between having the right amount of confidence and not seeming like an asshole. Most dating profile faux-pas either paint the subject as douchey or pathetic. Holding a massive bottle of champagne at a club? A Facebook profile picture of you holding up the leaning tower of Pisa with your pointer finger? If your goal is to be more matches, think about your audience.
