What you believe, is what you attract in the world. In other words, what you focus on expands. So because you keep focusing on the fact that the guys you attract only want casual, you actually keep attracting more and more men that prove that to be true.
The way to start combatting this is: first, every time you detect that a guy only wants sex, immediately shut it down and do not give that person any more attention, or even thought whatsoever.
If you no longer tolerate this in your life, and you are clear and consistent about it, the universe has no choice but to start sending you other options. Move on to the next guy.
And second, start working on your beliefs. Can you start leaning into the belief that there is a guy out there who wants a long term committed relationship? Who wants you for you? For all of you? You only need oneβ¦. Start leaning into these beliefs as you date, and you will start seeing more quality guys that fit these beliefs. Trust me! Further, lean into the qualities that you DO want in a partner. Write down the top five values you want to share with a partner.
Things like a growth-mindset, ambition, health, curiosity, family-oriented. Look at these every day. Before you swipe on the apps. Before you go out and meet new people. Because what you focus on expands, it means that you will now see more people who meet these values in your life and you will attract them. Lastly, be open to men who look different than your usual type, knowing that chemistry can develop.
