Make an Appointment: drruxlemay gmail. Women need to feel loved and have a sense of connection to have sex. Men need to have sex to feel loved and appreciated. Does that ring a bell? Is it always true?
Or are these just stereotypes that have been perpetuated over time? And more importantly, what happens to a long-term relationship when there is no intimacy? In the next two blog posts, we will take a look at how both genders feel and act when the physical aspect of the relationship just disappears.
All these ideas have been introduced and drilled into my brain for the first 25 years of my life. When I started my career as a psychologist , I counseled men in different life stages. Yes, many of them were in unhappy relationships and part of that unhappiness had something to do with the lack of sex and physical intimacy. But that was not the entire picture. It was also about the constant rejection, invalidation, the inability to open up and not be considered weak and vulnerable.
It often showed up in pent-up anger and aggression, tension, drinking, and just unplugging from home life. Those, of course, are socially acceptable norms of male unhappiness. And then, I became a wife and more importantly, the mother of three boys. Having the opportunity to see how the male mind develops, witnessing their emotional and physical needs as babies, toddlers, pre-pubescent young men gave me an entirely different perspective on the entire conversation.
Now, I finally understand that they do have a special relationship with that part of the body. However, more importantly, I know how much love, hugs, kissing, and emotional validation they need. And I am not saying they need them more than girls or women do. I am saying that they need them as much.
