How can you not?!! Why did this happen? Why is he slowing down? Backing off? Disappearing into the night?? To put it bluntly. Because we do not go to the grocery store when we are hungry , remember?! And we only want to be with people who want to be with us. And ideally, we want to be moving at a relationship-building pace that is comfortable and feels safe and natural for all parties involved. Slowing down is also about taking care of yourself and prioritizing your needs - something most of us suck at, and kinda wish a hot life partner could just come along and magically do for us.
When you learn to slow down and get back to yourself versus chasing this person down like a frenzied hyena in the night you are actively reclaiming your sanity and self-respect. Less-Effort to potentially get back on the same page - not from a place of thirsty desperation, but from a place of natural alignment. Here are some ways you can slow down, stay sane, reclaim your power, and potentially get the relationship back on track.
You might feel like you are all alone, but you are not. You have people in your life. You have friends or family or coworkers or your favorite barista or those folks in your a cappella group or hey - maybe you need more of those people. IN SHORT: Make plans with other people who fill up your cup, stay active in your social life, and appreciate the love and connection that already exists around you. Treasure that shit.
ALSO: Keep dating other people. Keep dating other people. As if! They are so not the last one. There are literally millions of others. So get back on the apps, honey bunches. You have to keep going out with your peeps and checking out other peeps and practice flirting with cuties. Maybe you need to say yes to the option of being set up, and continue to keep your eyes peeled for other hot somethings in your vicinity that you might want to explore your options with.
You can really like someone who might not be the right person for you. Because someone who is consistently reducing efforts or pulling away is not going to be the right person for you. Exercise your options. Reduce that stupid tunnel vision. Again: Just because you have strong feelings for someone does not mean that the two of you are meant to be together. Is it possible that you got caught up in your attraction, and made an incorrect assessment of this person?
