But over time that can all start to dwindle. Or sometimes significant life events can have a similar dampening effect. This could be due to starting a family, moving home, work and financial issues, a physical or mental health illness , or the loss of a loved one. But there are some definite tell-tale signs that a relationship is in need of help.
Every couple has moments of conflict. But a relationship can only keep growing if the people in it spend time together. A relationship where trust is going or gone is in trouble. Little or no sex life usually indicates that a relationship has problems. Some people are happy with a relationship like this. But for the vast majority, there really needs to be intimacy in some way, including cuddles, holding hands, kissing and sex too. This is when a couple is creating and growing love for each other.
This is what many relationships need, a refresher. You can even plan dates like in the beginning. On your dates, be curious about your partner, just like when you first met — maybe ask some of these questions designed for creating intimacy.
There might be some new things to discover or remind yourself about: things that helped you fall in love with your partner in the first place. This can include dating, but also could be such as snuggling up to watch a movie or having a walk to collect a takeout. Also, try some new things as a couple. A certain amount of routine is necessary for life, perhaps, especially if there are children — but so is a bit of spontaneity as you most likely had in those early days.
If there are any issues you have about something, first of all, think to yourself: do I really need to talk about this, does it really matter? Understand that you can change your reaction to things too. Is something an issue because in fact, you are in a bad space? Maybe defuse potential conflict with some fun. It is also important to talk in an honest way if there is something that needs to be addressed. But when doing so, make sure not to blame, shame or try to make your partner feel guilty.
