Maya Midnight Mistress Tweets. I know most of these problems are due to ignorance and nervousness rather than plain douchebaggery, so I wrote this guide to help you out. In the time I've had it on my site, many clients have told me that they found it very helpful. Hopefully you will too. Some notes before we start. Because I am basing this on my personal experiences, this guide is definitely slanted towards NYC newbs contacting independent Dominas.
However, most of this also applies if you are booking through a Dungeon or if you are elsewhere in the world. This guide is aimed at newbies but you may find it helpful if the Mistresses you see tend to respond negatively to you, or if you frequently have trouble booking sessions.
If you have a brain in your head, most of this is pretty obvious. Before you contact Her Know what you want. What are your interests? Helping you learn about your desires is part of my job. Men see sex workers for a variety of reasons, but the most common is good old-fashioned horniness.
You could have called an escort or a "massage" parlor. You could have gone to a strip club and looked at tits. Instead, you called me. There must be something that inspired that choice. Are you interested in pain, humiliation, or both? Do you have a fetish? Do you want to be controlled? Look over the list and find a few things that appeal to you. If she does not have such a list, there are numerous BDSM glossaries online. BDSM glossaries are also helpful if a Mistress has interests listed that you do not recognize.
I have had prospective clients call me up to request definitions of interests I have listed. I wrote up a big long list of questions specifically to help new submissives define and articulate their desires.
