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Just needing to feel a bit better about this. Joined a NSA looking for excitement. Wow, I got it but at a price. Met a younger guy twice. Very intense, very sexual followed by silence. I sensed danger and kept away which nearly killed me but after 3 months a 'hey, how are you? However, once we started chatting I could tell he was luke warm and reality set in.
Instead of dignified silence, all the built up tension got the better of me and I just blurted out a load of emotional stuff - I am having a mid life crisis, I will get attached, I am too into you, I cannot meet you even though I want to, take it as a compliment. Not even a best wishes back and it has left me feeling like a middle aged, desperate twit.
I am having a real problem just laughing it off and feel that my whole self esteem has been shaken. Feel sooooo embarrassed and a very bruised ego. You're too emotional for ME A. Do proper dating with someone wanting to get "too attached as well. From what you are saying, it sounds as though you were rejecting his further advances, albeit in an emotional way - that's probably why he didn't respond - his ego would've been dented a bit, and with it being a NSA, he'd want to move onto the next encounter without investing any more time.
You have nothing to feel embarrassed about - you turned him down and if you told him to 'take it as a compliment' he probably thought you were trying to spare his feelings. Hey, don't feel bad! You told him the truth. He chose to back off. Although I appreciate this isn't great for your ego, it's made you realise where you stand. It's perfectly normal to be upset by this, but at least you now know you theres no point in pursuing this FWB relationship any longer.
