When I was 14, I had a crush on my classmate. It was my first lesbian experience. That girl abandoned me in quite a cruel way, so I spent another two years mourning the two weeks of happiness we had together. I went through all the phases of recognising myself as a gay teenager: negation, condemnation, anger, fear, and finally, desperate acceptance.
I met my wife when I was What was supposed to be a one-night stand turned out to be a family with one little boy and two cats. I can only hope that by that time you will still be with me because you want it too. We spent the next three years having fun and travelling around the world. Then we had IVF in We talked about our parents, our fears, our plans, and goals.
And to be honest, it was quite a surprise to see so many heterosexual people supporting us in the comments section. And yet, we received some negative feedback from the lesbian and bi community. We were told that having a child in Russia was a huge mistake, and that my wife and I were being silly and irresponsible.
Well, I strongly believe that the easiest thing in the world is to just keep being afraid of homophobia, just keep doing nothing. She was next to me when our son was born. He calls her mom, he calls me mom too, and he is definitely the best thing that happened to both of us. We have never been threatened, faced violence or been offended in any way.
Yes, not everyone knows about who we really are to each other, but look — I never cared if people think being gay is OK, so why should I care what they think about my family now? Yes, we are a kind of illegal family. I have the status of a single parent. We would receive more benefits if we were in a registered, heterosexual marriage. His classmates are not bullying him yet. Well, I have no answer to this. Seeing my son's tears, caused by the simple fact he has two moms, is one of the most horrible things I can imagine.
