FetLife really changed the game when it came online back in FetLife was a different sort of social networking site. Before it existed, the kink community congregated in sites like Alt. While they all served their purpose, and had thriving forums, they were first and foremost a meat market. Their focus was on getting you laid. You can find what you want, but instead of it being served up on a platter for you, you have to do some looking and talking and meeting people.
Kind of like the offline world. You are going to have to join groups and interact with people. Just like real life. User Status No one knows you are online. I really like this. And here you have that option. Privacy Options To put it bluntly, there are none. Write a post, and all your friends can see it. The first way this is better is that you are accountable for what you post. Say something mean, there is a trail. I think it leads to a more mature environment and a bit of a small, home-town feel.
You can build or destroy a reputation because there is a history. The second way is due to the nature of the Internet. Popular culture examples revolve around Facebook, but this experience has been going on for a long time. There is a story in the news about a woman who got fired from her job for something she said on Facebook.
And Facebook is famous for the privacy controls. Frankly, privacy settings is more about theatre than keeping your stuff private. That said, FetLife does give you some defenses. If some one is harassing you and sending you unwanted messages, you can simply go to their profile, and click on REALLY BIG well maybe not that big block button on the right side. They are usually the best place to start asking for help. The caretakers are all volunteers, but they try to respond to spamming and serious harassment issues as quickly as they can.
I have even seen people removed from FetLife, though they usually like to approach the users and try to mediate the differences first. FetLife account creation. Going to FetLife. One interesting note is that all of the pics on the web page are actual FetLife members. JohnBaku arranged to have some of these pics taken in a photo shoot and he has even called for member generated images as well for the public face of FetLife.
