Nazanin Moali Apr 15, Sexuality 0 comments. BDSM used to be stigmatized as something that damaged folks engaged in, and was, in general, considered a deviant kind of sexuality. For those who are unfamiliar, BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism. BDSM culture covers a broad spectrum of people ranging from those who occasionally like to be restrained during sex to those with a specific kink, like a foot fetish.
When you engage in a BDSM scene, there is usually a bit of adrenaline involved. But, the power exchange can intensify your senses and cause you to be fully present in the momentβfar more so than vanilla sex. Consider how it would feel to be blindfolded during sex. Trying BDSM is a great way to practice mindfulness and self-care during sexual experiences. You may have seen coloring books marketed to adults that are supposed to provide stress relief. BDSM is kind of like that, but for your sex life.
And doing something creative is a perfect way to decompress, nourish your originality, and prioritize self-care. One of the benefits of BDSM is that it is a skill that anyone can learn. The intellectual and psychological component of taking or surrendering control makes the experience less about how sexy you are, and more about how inventive and inspired you can make the scene.
When you realize your brain can be your primary sexual draw, or that you have a powerful sexual technique, it can be very empoweringβespecially for women who have battled eating disorders. No longer is your body the principal object of scrutiny; your mind is equally incorporated into your sexual pleasure.
Further, BDSM can help you cultivate life skills that benefit your mental health. The time you spend out of your comfort zone can help you build confidence, get better at improvisation, and enjoy being vulnerable with the right people.
